Wives Must Submit To Their Husbands

Did the title catch your attention?  Are you seething with anger at my blatant chauvinism and my obsolete way of thinking from an age and culture long passed?  Hold that thought. There is a great deal of resentment towards how the Bible speaks of a woman’s submission to her husband.  And in many cases, for good reason.  Why?  Because in many cases, these verses are taken out of context.  Many times man has abused his position as head of his household.  And people tend to notice just the parts where the woman submits to her husband’s authority.  But that does not mean that the man is to become authoritarian in his affairs.  Let’s take a look and see what the Bible actually says about the husband’s responsibility.

Ephesians 5:25-31
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and with blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the Church, because we are members of this body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

Pay close attention.  Particularly to the word “cherishes.”  Cherish.  “To feel or show great love for; to remember or hold in a deeply felt way” (Webster).  “To treat with affection and tenderness” (thefreedictionary.com).  “To protect and care for lovingly” (oxforddictionaries.com).  Look at any definition of the word “cherish,” and you will never find anything negative about it.  The husband is to cherish his wife as he cherishes his self.  So any husband who lives by this simply by this word alone will not be abusive or act selfishly to his wife.  He is to be selfless.  As Christ did for the church.  For God Himself left His position of authority and took on human flesh, got on His knees and washed His followers’ feet.  And He willingly laid down His own life for the church.  The husband is called to do the same.  Husbands, we are to humble ourselves.  We are to deny ourselves and serve the needs of our wives.  We are to care for our wives.  Love them unconditionally.  And if need be, lay down our lives for them.  While we are the head of the house, we put our wives’ needs ahead of our own.  God pursued the church, and made the church His priority.  We as husbands should also pursue our wives and make them a priority in our lives.

What, I ask, is more endearing than that?  Why would a woman not want to submit to a love like that?  You see, the Bible does not say that a woman should submit to abusiveness and live to serve her husband as “lower-class” citizen.  She is to be the second most important person in his life.  Second only to God.  And if a man pursues God, he will always treat his wife the way she should be treated. With utmost respect, sincerity, and unconditional love.



Misquoted – “The Root of All Evil”

Attacks abound on Christian beliefs and Bible verses.  People try to use our own Bible, the word of God, to try and undermine our faith.  The sad part is, the ridicule stemming from Bible verses tends to be born from a simple misunderstanding or an out of context quote.  Take the meme I saw the other day.  It says, “If money is the root of all evil, then why to churches ask for money every Sunday?”  A direct implication that Churches are somehow contradicting themselves.  Not true, I say.  At least do your homework before trying to undermine a group of people’s valued beliefs.  So where does this verse come from?  I’ll show you, that the Bible never says “money is the root of all evil.”

1 Timothy 6:10     (All emphasis added)

For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred form the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.  –  KJV

For the love of money is a root of all evils; it is through this craving that some have been led astray and have wandered form the faith and pierced themselves through with many acute [mental] pangs.  –  AMP

For the love of money is a root of all sorts of evil, and some by longing for it have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.  –  NASV

So you see, it never says that money by itself is evil.  It says that the love of money, the longing, the coveting of money is the root of all kinds of evil things.  Nothing is wrong with having money.  Nothing is wrong with being rich, if you are so blessed.  What is wrong is attitude.  What is wrong is if you have devoted your life to gaining money.  In fact, money can be a path to many blessings if you have the right attitude.  The last church I was a member of was very productive with the money that was freely given by the congregation.  Among the most notable things is the three orphanages that the church owns and operates in Eastern Europe.  Some of that money is used for local missions that help those in need that are closer to home.  Some of the money will obviously go to building upkeep.  After all, that eventually boils down to building codes and safety issues. Which of course would be unloving if a church put their congregation in any sort of danger because they did not upkeep the building.

So I say again, if you are a non-believer who wants to use up your time trying to tear down beliefs of others, at least do your homework and don’t use a misquoted Bible verse.  And to believers, you also do your homework so you can defend your beliefs properly and correct these misconceptions on the spot.

I’m not asking everyone to believe what I do.  Though that would be nice, and at the very least I’m always willing to enter into a civil discussion.  But what I do ask for is that my beliefs be respected.  Everyone wants respect these days, and they want their opinions respected.  But many aren’t willing to give the same to those that they have demanded respect from.  It’s all rather hypocritical really.  If you don’t understand something, simply ask someone who can answer your question.  Ask me, I’d be more than happy to help people see what the Bible really says.  And if I don’t know, I can certainly find out and get back with you.

In conclusion:  Money is in fact not the root of all evil.  The love of money is the root of all sorts of evil.  A heart and attitude poisoned by greed is the root of all sorts of evil.  If you’re living a life devoted to the accumulation of riches for yourself, take a look in the mirror and determine what your motives are in life.  There is a saying based off of a Bible verse, “Follow your wallet, and you’ll find where your heart is.”  If your heart is in the wrong place, money will likely lead you astray.  If your heart is in the right place, money cannot dissuade you from making the right choices.

For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.  –  Matthew 6:21

God Bless.